Couples Coaching
Have You And Your Partner Experienced A Loss Of Trust And Connection?
Are you struggling to figure out how to connect with your partner like you did when you first fell in love?
Have you been hurt or disappointed by your partner, and despite trying to heal over and again, does it feel like the scar tissue just won’t go away?
Are both of you longing for a connection that feels out of reach, yet you’re unwilling to give up hope?
Maybe communication has been a minefield.
Every conversation is emotionally charged and riddled with misunderstanding. Perhaps you just don’t feel comfortable being vulnerable around your partner anymore—emotional wounds have built up over time and made your relationship complicated. There may be certain conversation topics that are just too painful to revisit because you know that doing so will just cause more conflict.
For the first time, the two of you may be asking: Is it time for us to get outside support?
Sometimes Life Gets In The Way Of Your Romantic Connection
Maybe your relationship isn’t fraught with conflict, but it doesn’t exactly feel fulfilling, either. You and your partner may have gotten so busy with other responsibilities that your romance simply wound up on the backburner. Every spare second is probably spent taking care of life’s pressing demands. And now, you might feel like you have little room for intimacy, affection, and genuine quality time. It’s like the spark isn’t there anymore.
If you want to reignite that spark and breathe new life into your marriage or relationship, I encourage you to connect with me. As a coach who specializes in helping couples heal old wounds and connect in new ways, I am confident that I can help you and your partner increase your awareness of your relational dynamic, improve your communication, and co-create your future together.
Have any questions? Send me a message!
Even The Happiest Relationships Have Their Rough Patches
Relationships are hard. Everyone has different values, goals, needs, and expectations, so it’s impossible for two people to see eye to eye on everything. And even partners who agree on most of the important issues will still go through seasons of disconnection. After all, sometimes it’s not even conflict that drives them apart, but stress—stress due to finances, parenting, work problems, or individual mental health issues.
What’s more, sometimes even a lack of conflict can create problems in a relationship. This often happens when issues have been festering for a long time and have never been spoken about. If two people can’t safely and vulnerably come together and sort through conflict, it’s hard for their relationship to grow. This is why it’s important not to avoid conflict, but to learn how to navigate it constructively.
Many Couples Wait Too Long To Get Support
It’s all too common for couples to tell themselves that they can work through their hangups alone. Unfortunately, this is easier said than done. Many couples struggle to resolve their issues independently because of communication breakdowns, emotional triggers, and entrenched patterns. They end up trying the same solutions again and again and getting the same result.
The truth is that sometimes we all need someone who can help us challenge our perspective and think about our relationship in a new way. In couples coaching, that’s what I aim to do.
Coaching Can Help Couples Communicate From A More Mature And Empowered Place
I love couples coaching. It is my absolute favorite kind of work that I do. I think it's incredibly meaningful to have two people who come into a session feeling distant from each other leave feeling more connected and aware of their own patterns. There’s nothing more rewarding than watching partners engage in a constructive dialogue, solve their disagreements, and get clear on how they want to live their lives.
As a coach, I work with couples who are engaged, married, in a relationship, and even those who are divorced. With all couples, my goal is to act as a skilled facilitator and hold a neutral space for them to learn new communication skills, achieve conflict resolution, and deepen their emotional and physical intimacy.
What To Expect In Couples Coaching Sessions
Coaching with me is always couples-led, so you and your partner get to decide what you want sessions to look like. Some of the main goals of my coaching program include:
Delving into the layers of emotional and physical intimacy and creating a safe space for open communication and vulnerability.
Unraveling the complexities of historical dynamics and past experiences and understanding how they shape your current relationship.
Engaging in introspective exercises to deepen your self-awareness and help you understand each other's individual identities. You’ll learn to celebrate your unique qualities and values while discovering shared aspirations and goals for the future.
Learning constructive conflict resolution strategies, strengthening trust, and cultivating resilience to navigate life's transitions together.
My Approach To Marriage And Couples Coaching
The main approach that I draw from in couples coaching is called Intimacy From the Inside Out (IFIO), the couples model for Internal Family Systems (IFS). The goal of IFIO is to help you and your partner accomplish two things: (1) uncover and heal your deep relational wounds, enabling you to increase your trust and intimacy and show up from a more centered and empowered place, and (2) facilitate courageous conversations between the two of you so that hard truths can be spoken gently and decisions can be made with greater kindness.
For instance, let’s say that you’re upset with your partner for staying out later than usual. While your first instinct may be to blame them or question them, IFIO helps you do a U-turn and focus on what’s happening inside of you during such triggering moments. Maybe you were in a past relationship where your partner betrayed your trust. IFIO can help you communicate this hurt and fear from a place of vulnerability instead of reacting defensively. This way, the emphasis is on your emotions rather than the other person’s flaws. Moreover, this type of sharing has the potential to create healing and closure while simultaneously bringing you and your partner closer together.
In addition to IFIO and IFS, I draw from Non-Violent Communication (NVC) to help couples cultivate curious listening and Relational Life Therapy (RLT) to help them provide feedback that strengthens their relationships. No matter which approach suits you and your partner best, I believe that I can help you navigate your complexities and connect with each other in a more authentic and holistic way.
You May Have Some Questions And Concerns About Couples Coaching…
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My approach to coaching is all about trust, empathy, and non-judgment. There is no taking sides here. I aim to create a safe and supportive environment where both you and your partner feel heard and validated. Furthermore, I will gladly facilitate open dialogue about any fears or reservations, ensuring that each of you feels respected and understood.
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Yes, I am committed to confidentiality and use ethical standards to govern my practice. Your privacy will always be respected and protected throughout the healing process. After all, I want both of you to feel comfortable having vulnerable conversations—that can only happen in a place where confidentiality is paramount.
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In my time as a coach, I’ve helped numerous couples heal themselves and their relationships. After all, I wouldn’t be doing what I do if it didn’t work. Couples coaching is very effective as long as both of you are equally invested in improving your communication and deepening your bond. The key is to set realistic expectations for yourselves, since meaningful change takes time and effort.
Let Me Help You And Your Partner Reignite Your Spark
If you and your significant other want to enhance connection and understanding in your marriage or relationship, I encourage you to pursue coaching with me. To get started, you can fill out the scheduling form or call 952-913-5174.